Save the Date Etiquette

proposalCongratulations on your engagement! A few of my newly engaged friends have asked me about save the date etiquette, so I thought I would share the advice I was given when planning my wedding.

A save-the-date announcement is a great way to inform your guests of the date and location of your wedding, so that they can plan accordingly. It is especially nice if you are planning a destination wedding, or if a lot of your guests will be coming from out of town. There are a few rules of save the date etiquette to follow:

  • Send save-the-dates to everyone on your list, even if you already know whether or not they are attending.
  • Address the announcement only to those who are invited to the wedding. This will eliminate confusion about whether a boyfriend or girlfriend is invited, or whether they can bring the kids.
  • We recommend mailing save-the-date announcements as much as six months before the wedding. This will give your guests ample time to make travel plans.

Designing a save the date is fun and exciting, since it may be the first time your far-away friends and relatives will hear about your engagement. There are several ways to send a Save the Date. You can choose save the date cards, save the date postcards or save the date magnets. Then have fun and let your creativity take over. Do you want to include a photo of the two of you? Or would you rather keep it to simple text? Picking the colors is always fun. If you have chosen your wedding colors you can use those, but it is not necessary to match. The important thing is to make it your own. This is not a formal invitation, but a sneak peak of what your wedding will be like. Let your personalities come through.

There are three main things to include on a save the date announcement:

  1. Your names
  2. The date of your wedding
  3. The location of your wedding

Save the date etiquette isn’t tricky, but it is a relatively new custom—one your mom probably didn’t have on her list. But when you think about how much time it will save you in planning and communicating with all of your out-of-town guests, it’s no wonder save the dates have grown so popular. Besides, it’s fun getting your guests excited about your Big Day!

Check out Pear Tree’s huge collection of save the date cards, or keep reading our blog for more save the date ideas!

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Christy's day job is the Marketing and Merchandising Manager at Pear Tree, but in her free time she loves putting together events like birthday parties for her two boys, helping friends with their weddings, parties, showers, etc., dabbling in photography, and spending time with her family. She is quick to tell you that her preoccupation with Pinterest is not an addiction. It's market research. To get to know Christy a little better, visit her blog, A Peek Into 31 Otter Court.

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